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PILSAR: Dating While Disabled

29th October 2017 @ 3:00 pm - 6:00 pm

Dating while disabled — with physical or mental impairments, with chronic illness or LD, as a spoonie and/or as a neurodivergent person — comes with a host of difficulties. Venues are often not accessible, navigating mainstream dating cultures (straight and queer) is often alienating, and managing your spoons to date when you have other responsibilities can be a never-ending struggle.

In this session, we would like to center the voices of disabled people, using a social model of disability and the idea of neurodiversity.

helpful terms–
social model of disability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23oBOjQAYe8
neurodiversity: https://autisticuk.org/neurodiversity/
spoon theory: https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

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In advance of the session, we ask that you familiarise yourself with the PILSAR safer spaces policy, which can be found here:http://ow.ly/VcpE304lSIe (Google Doc). Paper copies will be available in the session, and we’ll talk it through before the meeting.

Accessibility information for Common House may be found here:http://ow.ly/8yXe304lSAp (Facebook note). If you have any questions about access to this session, or any specific requirements, please email pilsargroup@gmail.com.

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PILSAR is a monthly discussion, peer support, and solidarity group (usually last Sunday of each month) concentrating on thinking and practicing relationships “differently” (that usually means we talk a lot about relationship anarchy, ethical non-monogamy, relationships that don’t conform to the “relationship escalator” idea or other ideas promoted by the capitalist heteropatriarchy.)

The purpose of the group is to discuss issues and learn from each other on a more general level (sometimes with the help of lighter reading material, such as short articles and blog pieces), and also peer support and solidarity – so not just theoretical abstract discussions! Our feeling was that for a lot of people doing relationships differently can be quite difficult, with little support and guidance in people around you and in the media, and so it would be great if we could provide this for each other.

We strive to make this group a safer space for people who are often excluded and marginalised in public spaces and groups. Please read our Safer Spaces Agreement before attending. Common House is accessible by wheelchair (ground level, no steps inside when using the second entrance – let us know if you need the details!), but unfortunately the toilet is not – bear with us while we try to find an accessible toilet in the nearby area. Do let us know if you have other needs either in advance or on the day and we will try to sort something out!

Details

Date:
29th October 2017
Time:
3:00 pm - 6:00 pm
Website:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pilsar/

Organiser

PILSAR
Email:
pilsargroup (at) gmail (dot) com
Website:
pilsar.org

Venue

Common House
United Kingdom + Google Map
Website:
https://www.commonhouse.org.uk